Celebrating the Small Wins: How Small Moments Shape Resilience
We’re living in intense times—personal transitions, economic instability, cultural divides and political shifts can leave us feeling drained or powerless. With so much mental energy spent on uncertainty, we often overlook the small but meaningful moments of growth, resilience, and joy.
Recognizing the good doesn’t mean ignoring the difficult. This isn’t about toxic positivity or forcing happiness—it’s about balance. When we intentionally notice and absorb positive moments, we strengthen our ability to navigate life’s ups and downs with greater resilience.
This blog post is about the power of acknowledging the good, no matter how big or small. Watching my daughter grow up reminds me of the importance of celebrating milestones—not just the big ones, but the small victories that shape who we become.
In fact, it was one of her recent experiences that inspired this newsletter—at a driving lesson, of all places.
She had failed her first driving test and was feeling discouraged about trying again. During a lesson to prepare for her second attempt, her kind instructor guided her through parallel reverse parking—something she dreaded. Step by step, he patiently coached her through the process.
And then something wonderful happened.
On her very first attempt, she successfully parked between two cars. She couldn’t believe it! But the best part came next.
He asked her to step out of the car and admire her work. Standing on the sidewalk, he said, “Take a look at this beauty of a job you did. You should be very proud.” Then, they took a picture to mark the moment—a reminder of her success to share with friends and family.
That simple act of acknowledgment had a profound impact on her—and on me. It was a beautiful illustration of how powerful it is to pause, recognize, and celebrate the good in our lives.
Training Your Mind To See The Good
Dr. Rick Hanson, a neuropsychologist, explains that our brains have a negativity bias, naturally focusing on threats over positive experiences. The good news? We can rewire our brains by intentionally absorbing positive moments—a practice he calls taking in the good.
Here’s how:
Pause when you experience something good: Whether it’s a kind word, a moment of success, or a peaceful moment in your day.
Savor it for at least 10 seconds: Fully take it in, like soaking up the warmth of the sun.
Let it settle in your mind and body: The longer you focus on it, the stronger the neural pathways for positivity become.
Noticing the Good, One Moment at a Time
If this practice feels unfamiliar, start small. Acknowledge something you’ve already achieved, or notice wins in those around you—at work, school, or home. Many people find it helpful to write their wins in a journal. Over time, this simple habit can shift your mindset and help you see more of the good that’s already in your life.
So this month, in honour of my daughter’s birthday and the lessons she continues to teach me, I invite you to celebrate your own wins—big or small. Pause, savor, and let the good sink in.
Give it a try and let me know what you notice.
Until next time,
Wendy